Grooming From the Guts of Your Mindset

You may already have the most amazing grit and feel confident in how you handle stress and challenges, but for the sake of growth let’s explore what it means to have a strong mindset. Knowing what your strengths and weaknesses are, being able to effectively deal with stress, challenges, and obstacles with self-motivation as well as being able to communicate a bold courageousness when you need to as a leader takes a strong mindset. It’s being able to cope, it’s being brave, it’s being able to overcome setbacks and gracefully handle setbacks. A strong mindset leads to your ability to be happy in your space and step forward confidently. That all sounds beautiful, doesn’t it? The question is how to make that happen for yourself? I will tell you; it isn’t easy. There isn’t a hack that anyone can give you that makes magic happen overnight. You have to be willing to work at it every day to create a habit that links to results.

When it comes to working on the goals you want to set around your weaknesses, remember there is power in a plan. Build a SMART goal for yourself, which I am sure you know means you are setting specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound (SMART) goals for yourself. Work to identify the strategies you want to use and the resources you might need in order to achieve measurable success. As a coach this is the area I start in when I get a new client. Thinking about your real self in comparison to your ideal self, then creating a map of how you can work through the gap that exists. Building in progress check points so you can celebrate your successes along the way is a crucial piece of that puzzle too. Before we get too far, raise your hand if you are a high achiever (insert picture of me with my hand raised high here). Most of us high achievers have a tough time holding ourselves accountable, so we don’t “move the bar!” I am famous for creating a goal and then raising the success bar on myself if I don’t keep up with the evidence of growth and original plan. That will drive you crazy so be aware. This will help you stay more motivated and less overwhelmed.

After you have done some really great reflecting and goal setting, finding what kind of motivation works best for you is key. When your journey gets a little tough, what do you need in order to keep pushing forward? What drives you to carry on? This is important in every space because you are going to hit trials and frustrations at home, at work, in relationships of all kinds. It is also worth noting that what works for the person next to you might not work for you. What motivates me is good ol’ fashioned encouragement. I like to feel seen, heard, and appreciated. What motivates you might be rewards of some kind or someone investing enough in the end game to offer development ideas to you before you call it done. Take some time to reflect on that and then identify how you can build your environment to help motivate you. This might mean sharing with someone close to you what you need, building your own reward system, cutting out negative people in your space, removing stressful obstacles from your path, or anything else that you think will help.

It is crazy the hold communicating courage will have on your mindset. Courage is the ability to face struggle or fear with confidence and determination. One guarantee every leader has is that you will face struggle and fear at some point. How you handle it is where the impact can be made. Being able to authentically communicate with your people through those times will not only help keep your heart feeling like you aren’t hiding the bad stuff but will also help make you less intimidating to your people. I know you are the leader, and you sometimes feel like you are supposed to have it all together, but it takes a lot more strength to open the door to your office and let everyone see behind the scenes. That is how you, as a leader, can truly help groom new leaders. Let them see the guts of the operation. I hope this helped you completely redefine the idea of “strong” to lean a little more into the arena of “authentic,” because being real takes a lot more strength.

If we are authentically communicating courage that means we are being honest, not shying away from difficult conversations, we are overcoming fears, being aware of our emotions, acknowledging our weaknesses and applying grit as we push forward calmly and bravely anyway. A strong mindset is not the absence of fear, it is the power of not letting it cripple you. It means you have created a plan that is linked to your strengths, you have motivation in place, and you know growth is the only way forward, so you are able to push through the fear. Communicate that strength courageously. Hopefully you can see how this will not only be impactful for you, but also for those around you. It takes practice. Your mind is very much like a muscle, and you have to exercise it one day at a time in order to build habits that will help you communicate with your own head and heart in more impactful ways.

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